You might find yourself following along with your partner’s imagination, or you might be taking the reins yourself.
If you’re shy, your partner might only need to know that you’re a willing participant to take off and lead for you.
Although laughing through the awkwardness may work for some people, if it takes you out of the moment, try redirecting to an earlier point of the conversation. I bet you can imagine my warm lips on your penis right now.” Or shift the onus back to your partner with a hot potato-y “tell me more about what you’d do to me."Let’s say your partner goes from 0–60 real fast and starts calling you names you find disrespectful.
It’s important for both parties to understand that it’s okay to call a "detour" (detour is a word that can keep things moving, as opposed to stop).
It’s hard to believe that through all the technological breakthroughs, long-distance sex is still pretty much the same as it was in 1876 when Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone so women could describe their ankles to guys over the phone. But phone sex can really feel like that if you don’t know what you’re doing.
Phone sex is a great and safe place to talk about the things you wouldn’t or couldn’t do in real life.
Treating phone sex as sexy little appetizing pieces can help take some of the pressure off.
It’s perfectly acceptable to tell your partner these are your fantasies for phone sex only, and not fantasies for reality.
” or “What if we were invited by a sexy woman on the beach to have a threesome?
You’re not obligated to only talk about stuff you’ve done or necessarily will do, during phone sex.